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Life in the Siskiyous Stephanyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17642096251582030317noreply@blogger.comBlogger527125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3869666820256461567.post-42559186848975839042023-05-29T22:39:00.006-07:002023-05-29T22:39:47.918-07:00SmittyI dreamed that dad, mom, brother Greg, nephew Noah and a couple of strangers were all squeezed in my car driving across the country. Dad and mom were only coming part of the way, I was supposed to drop them at different airports so they could go back to where they came from. Noah had been driving all night, the rest of us had fallen asleep. When I woke up, I realized he'd missed a turn off. We were supposed to head east but we were still.heading north. I had him pull over at the ramshackle diner where we found a cool, shady parking lot out back. Mom was sitting in the back seat and I was really glad we found shade for her. I took out my paper map and went inside to ask for directions. I tried to ask the folks in the kitchen but they were closed off behind a wall with a tiny service window and they wouldn’t come to the counter. I tried asking a guy whose extended family was sitting at several tables but I couldn't make him understand the map. I went back outside and tried to unfold the map on the hood of the car but it wouldn't open to the right section. It was a jumble. Dad was standing by me trying to help, trying to tell me which way to go, but I kept fumbling with the map. The map didn't show the whole route, just part, and I couldn't unfold it to the section i needed. Smitty kept trying to take the map and show me something but I insisted that I knew the way, I had planned the route and we were going to go the way I had planned. He wasn't fighting me on it, but he kept debating my decision. this was something he did a lot, take an oppositional point of view, play devil's advocate. it infuriated me and we'd end up fighting. I refused to listen to him, told everyone to.get back in the car, I would drive. We were heading back out in the Freeway when I woke up.
Lingering control. issues left over from childhood? Whatever are you talking about?
i refused to listen to him for my entire adult life, from my early teens to his death. there was a lot i could have learned from him but he was so confrontational, so fucked up. He Swung wildly between being deeply proud of me and profoundly disappointed. One day he would be fighting like a wildcat to control me, the next he would be oblivious, absent, deliberately shutting me out because I wasn't what he wanted me to be..I was too fat, too loud, ro opinionated, too much like him.
the wild swings were too much for me. i had to get out of there. i didn't look.back. but oh, I wish he had gotten some help, gotten a break. I wish he could have found some peace so he could have shared it with me
I woke up with a sore neck from clenching my jaw so hard.
Stephanyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17642096251582030317noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3869666820256461567.post-77140120120512223372023-05-14T13:11:00.008-07:002023-05-14T22:08:46.624-07:00Funeral SongsThe ever-expanding list of songs to be played at my funeral
Coyote, Joni Mitchell
Clouds. Joni Mitchell
Sisters of Mercy, Leonard Cohen
To Lay Me Down, Jerry Garcia
The Wheel, Jerry Garcia
Mood Indigo, Duke Ellington
Many Rivers to Cross, Jimmy Cliff
What'll I Do, Harry Nilson
St James Infirmary Blues, Jelly Roll.Morton
Nuages, Djamgo Reinhardt
Minor Swung - Django Reinhardt
Gymnopedia, Eric Satie
Im Coming Home, Staple Singers
By the Rivers of Babylon, Bob Marley
Redemption Song, Bob Marley
Peace Like a River, Paul Simon
Slip Slidin Away. Paul Simon
Candles in the Rain, Melanie
She, Graham Parsons
Tapestry, Carol King
Elvis Presley Blues. Gillian Welch
Blue Eyes Crying in the Rain, Willie Nelson
Angel From Monthomery - Bonnie Raitt version
All Things Must Pass - George Harrison
Hide Your Love Away - Beatles
Stephanyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17642096251582030317noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3869666820256461567.post-87476583505478967032023-02-24T11:39:00.002-08:002023-05-04T09:39:30.481-07:00Life in the Wilderness <p>"There's the idea of the wilderness, and then there's the unglamorous labor of it, the never-ending grind of securing firewood; bringing in groceries over absurd distances; tending the vegetable garden and maintaining the fences that keep the deer from eating all the vegetables; repairing the generator; remembering to get gas for the generator; composting; running out of water in the summertime; never having enough money because job opportunities in the wilderness are limited; managing the seething resentment of your child, who doesn't understand your love of the wilderness and asks every week why you can't live in a normal place that is not wilderness; etc." Emily St John Mandel.</p><p><br /></p><p>Check, check, check </p>Stephanyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17642096251582030317noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3869666820256461567.post-21915368361185225672023-01-30T15:37:00.001-08:002023-01-30T15:37:58.910-08:00A list of traumas<p>Trauma #1: I was delivered from the womb violently and injured in the process.. It was a perfectly normal deliver going at a normal pace until some sick sadist of an OB GYN rammed steel forceps up into my poor mother, clamped them on my head and dragged me out. My head was marked and misshapen in the process. I've always been uneven - one bad eye, only good with one hand, crooked teeth. I think it is at least partially due to the fact that I was attacked and at the moment of birth and slightly brain damaged. I have some CTE.</p><p>Trauma #2: my father got into a fight with some guys on my way home from the hospital and got thrown in jail. My mom brought me back to their studio apartment in Long Beach by herself, probably on the Red Car. I wouldn't stop screaming, she couldn't stop crying. She had been trying to get me to nurse but it wasn't working. She called her best friend in hysterics. My "Aunt" Lola came straight away, brought bottles and formula, got me settle down. Got my mom settled down and sent her husband to bail Smitty out of jail. There is a special place in heaven for that woman.</p><p>That was, what? Day 3? 4</p><p>By the time I was 3, my father had broken his back in a construction accident, long before there was workers comp. My mom went to work cleaning in a factory while he healed. Then she slipped on a wet floor and cracked her tailbone. She also went on to have two more children, moved several times to keep ahead of the bills, and suffer through serious health issues. </p><p>We moved to Bloomington California to be near my mom's sister when I was about 4 years old. It was a rough neighborhood. Our next door neighbor was a member of the original Hells Angels. The Angels originally formed in San Bernadino and this guy was a member. One night, he started beating his girlfriend with a chain on the street. She ran to our door and tried to get in but my mom locked her out. He almost beat her to death in our front yard. </p><p>My dad went to prison before I was born. My mom made him join Alcoholics Anonymous when he got out. He sponsored other ex-cons in AA and occasionally let them crash at our house. I barely remember this, but I do remember liking the people my dad brought to the house.</p><p>My dad and his brother got into a wildly violent fistfight in our house one night. My mom took my brother and I into the closet to hide. I could hear thumps and yelling and things breaking through the walls. </p><p>My parents fought like tigers.</p><p>I walked up behind a guy pitching horseshoes, got hit in the heal and knocked out cols.</p><p>I had my tonsils out and spent 2 nights in the hospital. </p><p>We moved at least a half dozen times. </p><p>All this happened before I was in kindergarten. I'm sure there was more. Mom died before she got a chance to tell the whole story. I wish I had asked her sooner. I had just sent my youngest child off to college when she died and could finally pay her the attention she deserved but never expected. I didn't get a chance to give it to her.</p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Stephanyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17642096251582030317noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3869666820256461567.post-69372937631139610602023-01-20T07:53:00.003-08:002023-01-20T07:53:50.068-08:00Harmonic<p> I was blessed to grow up immersed in musical harmony. My mother and all 9 of her siblings sang beautifully. No family gathering was complete without a couple of hymns sung round the piano in 4 part harmony. My cousin, the family proto-hippie, had an impressive record collection. I'd sneak into his room and wear out his copy of Buffalo Springfield Retrospective. He introduced me to The Byrds, which led me to Crosby, Stills & Nash (and eventually Young.) Those tight, twisting harmonies felt like family to me. They felt like home. </p><p>David Crosby talked about how hard it is to sing the middle part, to hold your note and resist the pull from two different directions. If you can pull it off, it's the place where the magic happens. When it's just right, the infinite overtones open, an experience I've had exactly once and will never forget. Everything is energy. Energy is vibration. When vibration is perfectly aligned, it creates perfect harmony, which is the closest I've come to God. Im grateful to people like David Crosby who taught me how to hear it.</p>Stephanyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17642096251582030317noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3869666820256461567.post-67541690498786696172021-08-30T18:52:00.003-07:002021-08-30T18:52:30.067-07:00Haiku<p> The smoke cleared briefly</p><p>Overhead the geese honking</p><p>August is over</p>Stephanyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17642096251582030317noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3869666820256461567.post-72090812905606350652021-08-10T20:19:00.001-07:002021-08-10T20:19:06.939-07:00Change<p style="text-align: center;"> <span style="font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 13.5pt; text-align: center;">The only
lasting truth</span></p><p align="center" style="margin-bottom: .25in; text-align: center;"><span style="color: black; font-family: "Georgia",serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"><span style="box-sizing: inherit;">Is Change.</span></span><span style="color: #726b60; font-family: "Georgia",serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal">Why am I doing what I’m doing?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>To make my tiny corner of the universe a better
place. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The world changed and I’m rolling
with those changes, adapting as quickly as I can before my species become
extinct. <o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">I am in the place where I make my stand.<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">I am not who I thought I would be, not yet, but I’m not done
trying. I seek wisdom, grace, healing, peace. My intention is to walk lightly
on this planet. I seek to preserve my little corner. I seek the courage to share
what I have with trust and compassion. I accept that I have no control over
anything or anyone but my own body, heart, and head.<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">I am doing what I am doing because I still can. <o:p></o:p></p>Stephanyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17642096251582030317noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3869666820256461567.post-48063594419924417082021-03-06T08:07:00.006-08:002021-03-06T08:07:45.231-08:00Impeachment <p> <span style="font-size: 17px;">This is how the Trump Administration ends, not with a bang but a whimper.</span></p><br /><span style="font-size: 17px;">Take heart friends. It may feel like we are right back where we started, but you can"t walk through the same river twice. The needle has moved, infintessmally perhaps, but movement all the same. 57 senators voted to convict. Those who voted to acquit cloaked themselves in the fig leaf of a technicality. There was no full-throated defense of the man, his supporters are scrambling to distance themselves. Their Big Lie is crumbling under the weight of its own absurdity. They are superfluous now, their power spent on this circus clown and his horror show. Show's over folks. </span>
<br /><br /><span style="font-size: 17px;">We must never forget this moment and we must be ever vigilant to prevent it from happening again, but it is time to move on. Quit feeding this troll. </span><span style="font-size: 17px;">The most powerful punishment we can inflict on him and his minions is to withdraw our gaze. Don't grant him the attention he craves. Let him strut and fret in obscurity, haunting the halls of Mar a Lago like the Ghost of Insurrection Past. Leave him to the prosecutors and bankers and tax agents. We have more important work ahead.</span>
<br /><br /><span style="font-size: 17px;">We have a chance to do something truly transformative this year. We can make substantive change if we have the courage and the will, but this is our one shot. If Democratic lawmakers balk like they usually do, voters will turn away in disgust. This is my generation's FDR moment and we won't get another one. Let's focus our attention on things that matter: racial and social justice, economic reform, environmental protection, comprehensive health care for all. Let's make this moment count.</span>
<br /><br /><span style="font-size: 17px;">And so ends 4 years of chaos. Good riddance. In the words of the brilliant Julie Dubiner, fuck off Nazis. Crawl back into the dustbin of history where you belong. We have bigger fish to fry.</span><br />
<!--/data/user/0/com.samsung.android.app.notes/files/clipdata/clipdata_bodytext_210306_080632_987.sdocx-->Stephanyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17642096251582030317noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3869666820256461567.post-52159398319696812032021-01-23T23:45:00.000-08:002021-01-23T23:45:18.653-08:00Prediction<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgHXw5Fl5rxeGF4aoY3-ZNKAB4gylIsGZTN5NMynSw-PlKd1QaGzCLUJnjzDWz6Gb-fABhQqRQ5Z9ZA2WGtIfQtYCR3N0gk-YAEgljfXXmQ4gSRZNYz3x8p98zkJSJQpdgxI_EzuFEHZes/s599/FB_IMG_1611473259460.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="528" data-original-width="599" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgHXw5Fl5rxeGF4aoY3-ZNKAB4gylIsGZTN5NMynSw-PlKd1QaGzCLUJnjzDWz6Gb-fABhQqRQ5Z9ZA2WGtIfQtYCR3N0gk-YAEgljfXXmQ4gSRZNYz3x8p98zkJSJQpdgxI_EzuFEHZes/s320/FB_IMG_1611473259460.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <div>This is what I got; </div><div><br /><span style="font-size: 17px;">Dear me and my family down south says that I am not going to be for Halloween this year of death stalks the land and our future hangs in the balance of the world comes to an end of the lake but not on the public end or in the campground of the Dead </span><!--/data/user/0/com.samsung.android.app.notes/files/clipdata/clipdata_bodytext_210123_234352_060.sdocx--></div><div><span style="font-size: 17px;"><br /></span></div><div><span style="font-size: 17px;">I need therapy.</span></div>Stephanyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17642096251582030317noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3869666820256461567.post-27891059305336200152020-12-29T22:55:00.003-08:002020-12-29T22:55:47.765-08:00Lear<p> </p><p dir="ltr">The tragedy of Lear is that he was a once great and noble King whose fall into dotage is both heartbreaking and universal. There has never been anything great or noble about Trump and there is nothing heartbreaking about his fall. He's a two bit huckster with just enough patter to mesmerize the rubes while he picks their pockets. He doesn't move us to Aristotelian pathos, he enduces nausea. May he wander lost and raving on the ash heap of history.</p>Stephanyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17642096251582030317noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3869666820256461567.post-10360912832651641842020-12-21T12:29:00.006-08:002020-12-21T12:32:23.856-08:00Solstice <p> I am doing everything in my power</p><p>To attract the help and resources I need</p><p>to fulfill my aim.</p><p>My aim is peace.</p><p>After this long year of fear, isolation, depression, helplessness, hopelessness, I will act in my best interest. I will take care of myself. </p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Stephanyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17642096251582030317noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3869666820256461567.post-82359513276096217512020-12-19T20:14:00.002-08:002020-12-21T12:30:52.732-08:00The End<p> All of these sad, sick, Nazi sympathizing Trump supporters are flailing in their failure. They have been returned to the dustbin of history where they so richly belong. In a few years, finding grandpa's MAGA hat in the closet will be akin to finding his Klan hood or Swastika. Your grandchildren find you abhorrent. Go back to your caves and your paranoid, racist fantasies. The adults are talking now.</p>Stephanyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17642096251582030317noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3869666820256461567.post-21713223879897506152020-12-06T22:33:00.002-08:002020-12-06T22:33:26.735-08:00Walking at Night<p> Walking at Night</p><p>Louise Gluck</p><p><br /></p><p>Now that she is old,</p><p>the young men don’t approach her</p><p>so the nights are free,</p><p>the streets at dusk that were so dangerous</p><p>have become as safe as the meadow.</p><p>By midnight, the town’s quiet.</p><p>Moonlight reflects off the stone walls;</p><p>on the pavement, you can hear the nervous sounds</p><p>of the men rushing home to their wives and mothers; this late,</p><p>the doors are locked, the windows darkened.</p><p>When they pass, they don’t notice her.</p><p>She’s like a dry blade of grass in a field of grasses.</p><p>So her eyes that used never to leave the ground</p><p>are free now to go where they like.</p><p>When she’s tired of the streets, in good weather she walks</p><p>in the fields where the town ends.</p><p>Sometimes, in summer, she goes as far as the river.</p><p>The young people used to gather not far from here</p><p>but now the river’s grown shallow from lack of rain, so</p><p>the bank’s deserted—</p><p>There were picnics then.</p><p>The boys and girls eventually paired off;</p><p>after awhile, they made their way into the woods</p><p>where it’s always twilight—</p><p>The woods would be empty now—</p><p>the naked bodies have found other places to hide.</p><p>In the river, there’s just enough water for the night sky</p><p>to make patterns against the gray stones. The moon’s bright,</p><p>one stone among many others. And the wind rises;</p><p>it blows the small trees that grow at the river’s edge.</p><p>When you look at a body you see a history.</p><p>Once that body isn’t seen anymore,</p><p>the story it tried to tell gets lost—</p><p>On nights like this, she’ll walk as far as the bridge</p><p>before she turns back.</p><p>Everything still smells of summer.</p><p>And her body begins to seem again the body she had as a young</p><p> woman,</p><p>glistening under the light summer clothing.</p>Stephanyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17642096251582030317noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3869666820256461567.post-42813780594820349052020-11-07T08:56:00.002-08:002020-11-09T15:26:07.376-08:00the politics of mom<p dir="ltr"><br />
My mother did not shop in thrift stores. She didn't even like to go to K Mart. My mom grew up in real poverty, not enough to eat poverty, cold all winter long poverty. She grew up wearing ragged hand me downs and worn out shoes. She picked cotton for other farmers to earn money for school clothes because her daddy sure wasn't going to pay her for picking cotton at home. When she escaped, she did not look back. She left poverty behind and worked herself to the bone to make sure I didn't know what real poverty was. Money was often tight. Some weeks we ate roast beef, other weeks we ate beans and hammocks, but we never went hungry, ever. My mom wore genteel office lady clothes that she bought from JC Penny's. As someone who grew up dirty, cold, and aching, she loved a hot bath better than anything in the world. She was not flamboyant and didn't want to be the center of attention, but she was funny as hell and could make everyone around her laugh. She was kind in a way that people still remember 15 years after her death. </p><p dir="ltr">
In 1968 she voted for LBJ and my dad voted for Nixon. I was shocked when she told me. I thought wives had to vote the same as their husbands. She quickly disabused me of that notion. She was humble but fiercely independent. No one was going to tell her what to think. She was the only pro-choice southern Baptist I ever knew.</p><p dir="ltr">She would have found the current president repellent. </p>Stephanyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17642096251582030317noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3869666820256461567.post-40229462858711826822020-10-22T22:12:00.006-07:002020-10-22T22:12:49.430-07:00<p> And so my witches, what shall we do for Halloween this year? How do we celebrate the high holy Days of the Dead in this year of of death? </p><p>You likely know all this, but it bears repeating.</p><p>October 31, Halloween or Samhain, the witches' New Years Eve, when we get on our brooms and fly. My wedding anniverary.</p><p>November 1, All Saints in the Catholic tradition, the celebration of the holy ones, the anointed ones, the bodhisattvas. </p><p>November 2, All Souls, Dia de los Muertos, the day we visit with our beloved departed and feed them wine and sugar skulls. </p><p>November 3, Election day. </p><p>Talk about a powerful conjunction. </p><p>Late stage capitalism has conspired to drain all reverence and mystery from our high holy days. Halloween has been commodified. Super Stores are filled with cheap wigs made by slave laborer. Costco is lined with shipping pallets full of candy but I haven't had a trick-or-treater in years. Who takes time to greet the ancestors, much less feed them? Young people hit the bars and drink till they puke, old folks turn off the lights and go to bed early. Only a very few set up altars to the ones who have crossed over. Very few of us spend time contemplating our own mortality. </p><p>Too many have crossed over in isolation and panic this year. It is not the right time to hit the bars in a sexy kitty costume. Trust me, I have spent more than one Halloween engaged in epic debauchery, I have no problem with a sexy kitty costume. But, it won't do this year, not when death stalks the land and our future hangs in the balance. It won't do.</p><p>So, I ask you again: what shall we do for Halloween this year? </p><p>In my mind, I see women in black lining the main street of my town. I hear a great wailing and gnashing of teeth. I join my voice with their's and cry out against the darkness. We wail for the needless, preventable death and suffering, we rage at the crimes against humanity. We howl over the theft of our future committed by the elite few against the vast masses. And as our voices lift and surge, I feel a cone of power spiraling around and upward. I am become light shining up and out, light shining in the darkness.</p><p>This is what we must do, my witches. We must shine more brightly than we have ever shone before. We must light the way for our beloved departed. We must drive out the darkness.</p>Stephanyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17642096251582030317noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3869666820256461567.post-19426133082513218552019-01-27T23:22:00.005-08:002019-02-01T20:27:28.875-08:00Cutting Loose<br />William Stafford<br /><br /><br /> Sometimes from sorrow, for no reason,<br />you sing. For no reason,<br />you accept<br />the way of being lost, cutting loose<br />from all else and electing<br />a world<br />where you go where you want to.<br />Arbitrary, a sound comes, a<br />reminder<br />that a steady center is holding<br />all else. If you listen, that<br />sound<br />will tell you where it is and you<br />can slide your way past<br />trouble.<br />Certain twisted monsters<br />always bar the path—but that’s<br />when<br />you get going best, glad to be lost,<br />learning how real it is<br />here<br />on earth, again and again.Stephanyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17642096251582030317noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3869666820256461567.post-37280261536232132032018-12-28T16:33:00.004-08:002018-12-28T16:33:56.744-08:00<br />
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Chased my illusions but only caught truth,</div>
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<li><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">2018 marked the first time in more than 20 years I didn’t work for the Shakespeare Festival, ending a relationship that began in 1974. My heart is broken but mending. No regrets Coyote.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Submitted more than 30 job applications and went on at least 10 interviews.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Started a new job in an entirely new industry and haven’t fucked it up totally yet.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Evacuated my home in front of a wild fire.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Worked with my friend and nutrition coach Pam Christy for several months. Made a lot of progress and then back slid, as is my pattern. I’m back at it again with new tools to help me achieve my health goals.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Started taking spin class at the Y with my old pal Jean Taylor. I love it. It kicks my ass in a good way.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Nursed my pup through a broken leg. We will reach the end of our 12 week journey soon.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Accepted the donation of a 15 foot tall statue. We have a giant erection in our future friends.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Played lots of shows with the Serenaders, including my favorite Green Show ever. Little kids got up on stage and danced with us. it was heaven.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Resisted the reactionary in the White House by writing, marching, singing, speaking out. We progressives must get past our petty differences and work together to defeat the maniac and his minions.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Canceled the Camp Out for the first time. My apologies campers. May we gather again in 2019.</span></li>
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The stage manager/director motif is a reoccurring theme in my dreams. Usually, the dream theatrical enterprise is in total chaos and I’m responsible for picking up the pieces. I often have to go onstage for missing actors, even though I don’t know the lines. These dreams are usually anxiety-filled, but this latest one was not. Every time I started to feel the anxiety creep up, I would remember that it was not my project, it belonged to Kristin. I was just along for the ride. I wasn't invested in the same way. <br />
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This is not unlike my job at the Fire Department; well, except the part where I know more than the people around me. I am definitely the least knowledgeable person in that room. But it's true that I'm not invested there in the same way I was at OSF. I take the work seriously, but I don’t live in a constant state of anxiety like I did at the art factory. I can very much leave this job behind when I go home.<br />
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The art factory trauma is slowly starting to fade. In truth, Art with a capital A is fading too, receding in life’s rear view mirror. OSF is over for me, thus ending an artistic relationship that began in 1974. I'll write about it some day. Hamfist is long gone, much to my sorrow. Bathtub Gin is on its last legs. We are scheduled to play a New Year’s Eve show and it will be my last. I haven’t told them yet, but my mind is made up. The band had to break in yet another drummer and bass player this fall. They're lovely people and good musicians, but I can't get excited. This band has been through so many drummers and bass players, I don't think I have it in me to train another rhythm section.<br />
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The truth is, I can't get over losing Jesse on the bass and vocals. He is the kind of musician who can hold his own in any circle. He is rock steady, swings like a pendulum, and really <i>feels </i>the music, which makes his collaborators feel it too. It's a rare pleasure and hard to describe, but musicians know what I'm talking about. Playing with Jesse took so much weight off my shoulders. I could depend on him onstage and off, which freed me to PLAY– not just play notes, but play like a child, playing a game, play with abandon. He made playing fun. Now playing is work. I’m in a constant state of alert, banging out tempos, trying to keep everyone on the beat, signaling stops and starts. I can’t let go and melt into the music.<br />
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misses playing music and hey, John Prine, so I told him about it and he said
he wanted to come. I suggested we play Oughta Name a Drink After You and Chain
of Sorrow. We've been playing those songs for decades and I figured we couldn’t
fuck up too bad. Plus, I was sure someone else would play Fish & Whistle
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the accordion and sang harmony which always charms people. It wasn’t our
best outing ever, but it was at the Goose on a Tuesday night, people were
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told us we were great, etc. I perform often enough now to take those kinds
of compliments with a grain of salt. Mostly people are charmed by the
accordion, not the music. By then it was past Sequoia’s bedtime and he left
right after we played, but I decided to hang out.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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familiar started chatting with me, told me we were terrific, we should do a few
more songs, etc. I was gracious but skeptical. He said he loves accordions and
mentioned he plays banjo. We both told banjo player jokes and talked shop a
bit. I thought he must be a local musician and finally said, "You look so
familiar to me, are you in a band?" He said, "Yeah, I play in a band
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missed them at Wild Goose but had seen them at <st1:city w:st="on"><st1:place w:st="on">Stillwater</st1:place></st1:city> just up the street. He remembered
that show and asked what happened to the people who ran that place. We talked
about how Maria Kelly had been dumped by JPR. It was all very casual and
relaxed. He went to stand in line at the bar. I hung out hoping he would come
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my head, like I do. I was too intimidated to insert myself into their group and
was overwhelmed by the whole scene. I looked in my car for a Bathtub Gin
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Stephanyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17642096251582030317noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3869666820256461567.post-73405158636765517162018-10-15T21:44:00.002-07:002018-10-16T09:02:04.371-07:00Rich ManBack in the early aughts, I once held in my trembling hand a paper check from the Paul G. Allen Family Foundation for 1.5 million dollars. Yup, $1,500,000, "One Million Five Hundred Thousand and 00/00," as it was written on the check. It came by U.S. Post in a Number 10 envelope with a first class stamp, they didnt even bother to send it by registered mail. As I held that insubstantial slip of paper, I realized it represented more money than I would earn in my entire life.<br />
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When I worked at OSF, Paul Allen came through the Development Office every few years. I was never introduced and rarely laid eyes on him, but I got to meet his dog. My friend Sharon stepped in as a last-minute replacement dog sitter while Allen attended a play. I don't remember what kind of dog it was, but I do remember it wore a Burberry collar.<br />
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Allen wasn't a "modest" billionaire. He didn't give all his money to high-minded causes like Gates and he didn't live in a suburban home like Buffet. He bought sports teams, arenas, a freaking space ship. He gave billions to an oddly eclectic array of arts and science organizations. He built an entire museum dedicated to Jimi Hendrix. He once took his 400 foot yacht cruising in Russia and gave his guests Faberge eggs as parting gifts. (This according to Peter Thomas, who had a nose for those kinds of details.) I guess what I'm trying to say is, the guy knew how to spend money. He was not trying to take it with him.<br />
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Good on him, says I. It was his money, who am I to tell him how to spend it? He didn't inherit his wealth, he didn't steal it or conjure it out of some hedge fund. He made his money the old fashioned way, by building and selling a good product. He built something extraordinary and people lined up to buy it. We didn't even know what it was and we sure didn't think we needed it, but now we can't live without it. And that, my friends, is the American dream.<br />
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And yet, there is something about that much wealth concentrated in one man's hands that makes me queasy. Sure, Paul Allen built an outstanding product; so what? Are products our greatest good, our highest value? Are they the metric by which we measure a woman or a man? By some accounts, Allen's product wasnt even the best of its kind, but he marketed it brilliantly while ruthlessly monopolizing an emerging industry. In return, capitalism honored him with its highest accolade: lots and lots of money. I'm not assigning blame to Allen. The man didn't create our system of predatory capitalism, he just played the game particularly well.<br />
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And so it goes. Good night sweet Prince. May your passing mark the end of an era.Stephanyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17642096251582030317noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3869666820256461567.post-26515758370114671622018-10-09T00:26:00.002-07:002018-10-15T21:41:28.620-07:00BMOCYeah, I knew Brett Kavanaugh in high school. We all knew this guy in high school.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He was the class president, the quarterback of the football team, the captain of the debate squad. He
wore a letterman jacket and spent a lot of time and money on his hair. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> We called them jocks and "soshies" (short for social), and they occupied the farthest end of the social hierarchy from the freaks I ran with. </span>We even had a name for them: BMOC, Big Man On Campus. These boys strode the halls like they
owned the school because they did. They stood in judgement of all who inhabited their world. They decreed who belonged and who didn't.<br />
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They called us faggot, dyke, whore, pig. They threw things at us as we walked by. They tripped some kid in the cafeteria and
screamed with laughter when he landed hard and his tray went flying. That laughter, like the baying of rabid coyotes,
it still rings in my ears. They
didn’t fuck with me as much as the quieter kids, I was too big, too loud, too angry to qualify as an easy mark. But, they would murmur among themselves and hoot their hideous
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We were drunk too, we girls. We drank Boones Farm Wine or Jack and Coke until we didn’t know any better, or at least
didn’t care. Girls like me, we were so desperate for male attention, so hungry for their approval. Male attention was how we measured our worth and it was the only marker that mattered. If you were pretty, rich, graceful, if you had a certain quality, it was easy to attract a lot of male attention. From what I hear, that kind of attention carried its own costs, but at least you were on the inside and at the top. For the rest of us, for girls like me, male attention was harder to obtain, but it was always the most important goal. I sought that attention like a diver seeks oxygen. I needed it. I catered to male egos, flattered their vanity, relented to their drunken aggression, acquiesced to their clumsy moves. This is
their world and that’s how women like me live in it. We mold ourselves to fit. I had to squeeze myself down, shut myself up, make myself sweeter,
lighter, less intimidating. Liquor did the trick. I drank until I felt like I was seen, heard, valued, because desire equaled value. I drank until I found myself in some dark bedroom or cramped back seat with a sloppy, out-of-control animal who had never heard the word “no” in his life. It was not in his lexicon. It didn’t apply to him. </div>
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I don’t apologize. I was just trying to survive the only way I knew how. Sometimes I felt powerful. Sometimes I felt beautiful. But, mostly I just felt used. </div>
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Yeah, I knew Brett Kavanaugh in high school. Not him, but
dozens just like him.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> We all did. </span>When I
think of that entitled, self-satisfied, racist, misogynistic, elitist frat boy on the Supreme Court of the <st1:place w:st="on"><st1:country-region w:st="on">United States of America</st1:country-region></st1:place>,
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Sequoia leaves for work at about 5:20, well before dawn. Last Thursday he got up, made his coffee, let the dog out to pee and then left for work. Within a minutes. he remembered that he had left the stove on under the coffee pot, so he turned around and drove back toward the house. As he was coming down the driveway in the pre-dawn twilight, he noticed a lot of road dust in the air, more than should have been lingering after his original trip up the road. No-one had come out the road behind him. As he pondered this mystery, he rounded a corner and came upon a full grown bear running down the hill right in front of him. It had to be a 300 pounder, maybe more. The bear ran up the tree where our "2390" sign is posted, bent the metal sign sideways, and released a mighty shit that fell to the base of the tree.<br />
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Y'all may remember Boo Boo, the bear cub we found in sleeping in our trash can about 10 years ago. I doubt that this is the same bear, but perhaps they are distant cousins.<br />
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On Sunday, Dazy the Dog and I went to bathe at Queen's Bath. She took off after something in the bushes and started barking like mad. I figured it was a squirrel, and paid her no mind. Just as I was lowering my naked ass into the frigid creek, a hideous red-eyed possum came waddling out of the underbrush with Dazy close on her heels. Dazy chased the nasty critter right toward me. I shot out the the water and started screaming bloody murder The possum dived under a boulder on the bank and Dazy tried to wriggle in after her but was too big to fit into the crevice. I scrambled for my clothes and hollered at Dazy to leave it alone, but she would have none of it, she wanted a piece of that possum. I finally got her to follow me up the hill towards the house.<br />
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Stephanyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17642096251582030317noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3869666820256461567.post-21330414642120096242018-08-24T16:57:00.003-07:002018-08-24T16:59:23.214-07:00Hero<span style="font-family: sans-serif; font-size: 12.8px;">One of my Deputy Chiefs shared this heartbreaking information about one of the fatalities that occurred on the Carr Fire in Redding, California.</span><span style="font-family: sans-serif; font-size: 12.8px;"> </span><span style="font-family: sans-serif; font-size: 12.8px;">Redding Fire Inspector Jeremy Stokes was killed while sitting in his Ford F150 pick-up when a fire tornado burned over his location. At the time, he was working in a subdivision, trying to evacuate residents who had not complied with the initial evacuation order.</span><span style="font-family: sans-serif; font-size: 12.8px;"> </span><span style="font-family: sans-serif; font-size: 12.8px;">Stokes sent out a mayday reporting that he was about to be burned over, but his transmission was cut off and never regained. </span><span style="font-family: sans-serif; font-size: 12.8px;">Reports and data reviewed from the incident indicate that the fire tornado was over 300 yards wide at the base. Stokes</span><span style="font-family: sans-serif; font-size: 12.8px;"> was killed by the traumatic injuries he sustained when his truck was picked up and thrown over 200 feet from where it was originally parked.</span><span style="font-family: sans-serif; font-size: 12.8px;"> </span><br />
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Stephanyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17642096251582030317noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3869666820256461567.post-73124325185487266012018-08-20T23:34:00.003-07:002018-11-20T20:38:50.952-08:00Blue Skies<br />
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Where there is fire, there is smoke. Weeks and weeks of smoke, smoke so
thick, we can’t see the mountains that we live in.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Half mile visibility smoke, smoke that makes us turn on our car headlights in the middle of the day. We stay inside all the time and when we venture outside, most of us wear respirator face
masks. A woman came into the office today wearing a face mask covered
in a bold patterned fabric, safety as fashion statement.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><st1:city w:st="on">London</st1:city> survived
the Great Smog of 1952 and I survived my the nitrogen oxide gloom of my pre-Clean Air Act <st1:place w:st="on">Southern California childhood,</st1:place> but
this feels different.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>For one
thing, it is not a localized phenomenon. Smoke covers the western half of <st1:place w:st="on">North America</st1:place>, half a freaking continent. There are fires burning north of the <st1:place w:st="on">Arctic
Circle</st1:place> this summer.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>For
another thing, this isn’t smog, it is wood smoke.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> The air smells like a</span> campfire, a scent that sends adrenaline coursing through my body. My nerves snap to attention, a primal reaction that was embedded in my DNA over thousands of generations.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Carbon-based life forms
are universally susceptible to fire, we avoid it if possible. I live in a constant, low-level state of
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What happens to the next generation, the children being born
now? What kind of world are we leaving to them? Will they live in a world in
which blue skies are increasingly rare?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>How long will it be before blue skies are a fable, a fairy tale? “Once
upon a time, the sky was the deepest, most radiant blue that you can imagine
and the air was crisp and clean.” They won’t know what that means, won't be able to imagine what that is like.<br />
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This is the reckoning for our self-indulgent profligacy, our
single serving, plastic wrapped, fast fashion lifestyle. This is the true price
of all the worthless crap we create, consume, and dump in the ocean as plastic
soup. Oregon's primeval forests have been clear cut and replaced by monoculture conifer plantations, ruler-straight rows of identical trees planted in unnaturally dense stands. The record-breaking heat and aridity turns tree farms into tinder. All it takes is one random, tiny spark from a power line or a car exhaust pipe, one stroke of lighting in these storm-haunted mountains, and we will have a conflagration barreling through the stick-dry Siskiyous like a brakeless freight train. There will be nowhere to run. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><br />
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smoke comes earlier and covers more territory each year, the skies are grey for
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